About
Flo Oliveira is a queer, trans, Black/mixed-race LMFT in California and the founder of Lifewflo therapy. They are a sex, kink, and non-monogamous QTBIPOC harm reductionist who provides harm reduction services specifically related to sex and out-of-control sexual behavior. Their specialties include working with high conflict/DV, substance use, and compulsive sexual behaviors—without an addiction lens. Flo offers sliding-scale services and welcomes folks in the legal system or those struggling with stigma around sex and porn use.
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Identity & values
Values & commitments
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Practice & approach
Sex therapy, kink-affirming care, non-monogamous-affirming care, and harm reduction for out-of-control sexual behavior without an addiction lens.
What harm reduction means in practice
Harm reduction in my practice means meeting people exactly where they are—without requiring abstinence, recovery, or shame. It means recognizing that 'out of control' sexual behavior, kink, non-monogamy, and substance use are often responses to systemic harm, stigma, and unmet needs. I work from a place of curiosity and compassion, offering sex therapy and mental health support that centers QTBIPOC folks, challenges carceral and pathologizing frameworks, and reduces harm by honoring bodily autonomy, pleasure, and self-determination.
Communities, movements & lineages that shaped this work
My approach to harm reduction is shaped by my identities as a queer, trans, Black/mixed-race Brazilian immigrant and my commitment to working with QTBIPOC communities around sex, kink, non-monogamy, and substance use outside of pathologizing frameworks.